No, it has nothing to do with your appearance.

There is something almost everyone gets wrong about attraction.

Most people think they have to chase beauty or status to be accepted by others. They are convinced they are not enough and need those things to actually being considered attractive. And that explains the increasing popularity of cosmetic surgery for example.

The reality is, attraction has usually more to do with personality traits than appearance. As Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. explains in an article published in Psychology Today, psychological traits are more motivating than physical traits for longer-term and emotionally intimate connections.

What follows are five qualities that can make…


#2. Gamify house chores

A few months ago — after the first COVID lockdown ended — Nadine, a good friend of mine, broke up with her boyfriend. They had been on and off for nearly a year, and being quarantined for almost two months was the last straw.

Theirs wasn’t the only relationship that struggled to survive during and after the lockdown. Another couple of friends, Mary and Mark, recently broke up. From what Mary told me, they had been arguing a lot during the last months, and spending twenty-four hours a day together in a small studio apartment during the lockdown didn’t help.


Inside a highly toxic mind. Confessions of an abusive partner to her victim.

Letter from abuser. Inside the mind of a toxic person.
Letter from abuser. Inside the mind of a toxic person.

I think about you every single day. The guilt is eating me alive. Our relationship was toxic and it was my fault. I was the abuser, you were the victim. Maybe I shouldn’t be writing this letter, but here I am, confessing my abuse.

I met you nine years ago, a few weeks after a painful breakup. I felt empty. I was still thinking about my ex and I wanted him back. So I was reading one of those self-help books about how to behave around men, make them chase you and play mind games. …

Sarah T

Music lover. Writer. Productivity and Career Coach.

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